People like to ask me what I was least prepared for in all my years of prepping for every disaster I could think of. There’s not much I’m unprepared for. But I do have to admit to one glaring exception—surrogacy.
Look, as a survivalist, I’m not keen on dragging kids around behind me. That’s more mouths to feed, and if you think you can train any kids to carry a fifty-pound backpack through the wilderness without whining about it the whole way? Well, maybe you’ve met better kids than I have.
But my sister was keen on it. She listed out the benefits, the payments, all that jazz, so I decided to read more about this whole surrogacy process and see what the big deal really is. Here’s what I found.
Types of Surrogacy
I already had some idea of what surrogacy was, of course. I knew it was an option that many parents who are unable to have a child of their own, rather than adopting a child. That gives them a chance to be the genetic parent of the child even if they’re unable to have or carry the child.
What I didn’t know is that there are different types of surrogacy options.
For example, if you’re part of a heterosexual couple who is unable to carry a full-term pregnancy, but who can donate eggs and sperm, you might opt for gestational surrogacy. This means a fertilized egg will be implanted in the surrogate, who will then carry the pregnancy, but the couple will be the genetic parents.
With traditional surrogacy, the surrogate’s own eggs are used for the procedure. That minimizes the number of procedures you’ll need to undergo, which also makes it less expensive for those seeking surrogacy. In these cases, the egg will be fertilized using the sperm of the intended father or a donor.
The Emotional Toll of Surrogacy
You can probably expect that carrying a pregnancy to full term and growing attached to that baby, only to give it to another couple, it’s a difficult step emotionally, and it may be tough for you to recover from. What I didn’t realize is that the emotional toll doesn’t always end there.
If you’re a traditional surrogate, you are the biological mother of the child, which means that when the baby is born, you have parental rights to the child. That means you’ll also need to go through the process of giving up those rights to the couple. While this process can be less expensive for the couple, it’s important to note that it’s not always easy on you.
Being Prepared for Anything—Even Children
Admittedly, surrogacy is a little more intense than I expected. It’s personal in more ways than I expected. Sure, I know a little about pregnancy and childbirth, and I get that it’s a tough process. Having a child with another couple, however, seems even more difficult and complicated than a traditional pregnancy.
While I have no plans to seek out a surrogacy or even having a kid, it’s always great to know what to expect with these types of things. Stay prepared, readers.